Alright, this blog is for all my ladies who are seeking to find their identity in Christ and become women of God, strong in their faith. Maybe you are trying to find out what career God has in store for you; perhaps you want to know your spiritual gifts and how to apply them in your life. Possibly even evaluating yourself, heart and all, and finding what the Lord desires for you to improve on and what strengths you have. Well, if this is the case for you, you are in good company. Not only am I myself trying to find my identity in Christ, but I find that lately, I have been evaluating many aspects of myself, who I am now, and trying to allow the Holy Spirit to mold me into His image, while still retaining my individuality. Buckle up, this blog is going to be a roller coaster of enlightenment and scripture that I pray impacts you in ways only the Lord can accomplish.
What does a woman of God look like? The answer to this question is all throughout the Bible, not only in how we ought to be as women of God, but we also have incredible examples in the Word that the Lord uses to help teach us. Ruth & Naomi, Esther, Mary (Jesus’ mother) Elizabeth, Rachel, Martha…. The list goes on. All throughout Scripture, the Lord blesses and uses women in miraculous ways and He values them deeply. Now, this topic could be a series in and of itself, breaking down every characteristic of a Godly woman in depth, but I want to try and focus on the 6 main characteristics of a woman of God. Lamentations 3:40 “Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.” Though we all have individual character traits and we all have our own individual personalities, the traits that make up a woman of God are constant, because they are influenced by the Lord. So let’s jump right into this!
1.) She must seek and fear the Lord ~ The first and most important thing to have as a woman of God is to have a reverent fear for the Lord, with a constant seeking and desire for more of Him. There is nothing more honorable than a woman who is diligently chasing after Christ, knowing that He is faithful and will provide for every need she has. Here are some verses that give meaning to seeking God first, above all other things.
- Psalms 111:10 ~ “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow his precepts have good understanding. To him belongs eternal praise.”
- Proverbs 1:7 ~ “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
- 1 Samuel 12:24 ~ “But be sure to fear the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things he has done for you.”
2.) She is led by faith, not feelings ~ As women, we are naturally drawn to be more emotional and to allow our emotions to guide a lot of our thoughts, conversations, and decisions. God knows, He created us this way! And there is nothing wrong with having emotions or feelings, it is rather a gift from the Lord to be sensitive to the emotions of others and to know your feelings. But it is not honoring to the Lord to use our emotions as a leader for our actions. The Lord desires that we think and meditate on the Word rather than be led by our feelings. The bible touches on this subject as well, and though the verses do not say these things exactly, you can easily apply them to how you react to the way you feel in certain circumstances.
- Proverbs 31:25-26 ~ “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”
- Psalms 112:7 ~ “They will have no fear of bad news their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord”
- Jeremiah 17:7-8 ~ “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”
- Isaiah 26:3 ~ “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
- Luke 1:45 ~ “Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”
3.) She knows her value and her worth in Christ ~ This is one that I really struggle with, and these verses are just as important for me to remember as anyone else. It is vital to be useful to the discipleship of Christ to know that you are valuable and that Christ cherishes you and your heart. As a woman myself, I know what it is like to want to know that you are valuable, that you are deeply loved and cared for, and that someone cherishes our hearts. Something that I am learning is that the only one who can and will love me, pursue me, and cherish me more than Christ can. We are so precious in His sight and He desires our hearts completely. Let’s look at what the Word says about our worth in Christ.
- 1 Peter 3:4 ~ “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
- Proverbs 31:10 ~ “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
- Ephesians 2:10 ~ “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
- Matthew 10:31 ~ “So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”
- Jeremiah 31:3 ~ “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.'”
4.) She is modest and knows that character comes before looks ~ In the society we live in today, it is so easy to get caught up in the deceitful lie that our looks are what makes us valuable. This is not the case. Our character is what the Lord looks at, our hearts are what He desires. We are to have a spirit of humility, of gentleness, of submission. If you read Galatians 5:22-23, it outlines the fruits of the Spirit, and the attributes that the Spirit will give us, such as gentleness and kindness.
- Galatians 5:22-23 ~ “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
- Proverbs 11:22 ~ “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.”
- 1 Peter 3:3-4 ~ “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
- Romans 12:2 ~ “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
- 1 Timothy 3:11 ~ “In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.”
- 1 Peter 5:5 ~ “In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because,
‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.'”
5.) She guards her body, as well as her heart & mind ~ Not only is modesty important but we also must remember to protect ourselves from sin and allow the Lord to lead our actions, thoughts and desires. The Lord desires that we do not take on the ways of the world by partaking in sin and allowing it to run our thoughts, but to arm ourselves against the schemes of the enemy. This includes the lies that society, especially the media, want you to believe. Our bodies are sacred and are not meant for anyone but our spouse to see and take pleasure in. Our hearts are precious and ought to avoid being tainted by the wickedness around us. Our minds are valuable we need to be protecting our thoughts, for the thoughts are what guide our actions. Take a look at what scripture says about being on our guard.
- Proverbs 4:23 ~ “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
- 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ~ “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
- Psalms 51:10 ~ “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
- Matthew 6:22-23 ~ “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”
6.) She is hard working and serves with gladness ~ A Godly woman takes care of her household and does it joyfully and with efficiency. We are to be care-takers, helpers. I know that many women now-a-days are so unrelenting when it comes to the feminist movement, and I do not want to get political here on this blog, but this is very important for women to understand, especially women who are following Christ, we are called to be helpers, not leaders. We are called and required by the Lord to be submissive. Now, being a strong-willed woman myself, I understand how hard it is for women to agree or follow this command, especially when the vast majority of men are not seeking God, making it hard to submit to someone like that. But I believe that every part of the bible is inspires by the Lord and we ought to follow it, and that included the things we may not agree with. So is it wrong for a woman to work? Absolutely not! But when you have children and a husband who is working to provide, it is our calling to raise those children, tend to the home, and support our husbands wholeheartedly.
- Proverbs 31:11-19 ~ “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.”
- Proverbs 31:31 ~ “Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”
- Ecclesiastes 9:10 ~ “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.”
- Deuteronomy 15:10 ~ “Give generously to them and do so without a grudging heart; then because of this the Lord your God will bless you in all your work and in everything you put your hand to.”
- Hebrews 6:10 ~ “ God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”
- Acts 20:35 ~ “In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
Now I already know that there will be some women who read this and become offended because of some of the things send here, but unfortunately, I am not concerned about that. This is the living Word of God and it is truth, no matter how much this world wants to change it or get rid of it. These are just a few of the characteristics of a godly woman, and they are clearly laid out throughout scripture. When we are truly aspiring to be a woman seeking after God, these will become so much more valuable and the Lord will give you the strength you need in order to achieve these attributes. Ladies, I believe, as woman, we are very strong individuals. We also have a very special relationship with the Holy Spirit in that we are more sensitive and receptive to His influence. I do not believe we are any better or worse than men, and neither does the Lord. We are uniquely designed and differently created.
I pray that this blog was not only helpful, but that the Lord spoke through my words, through my fingers on this keyboard, and allowed the Spirit to convict us to be more like Him. He loves you, He desires your heart and He craves a deeper relationship with you. I am not writing this because I have obtained all these attributes by any means, that is most certainly not the case. I believe that, especially as sisters in Christ, we are to build one another up and hold one another accountable. I am bringing this to your attention because the Lord has brought it to my attention and has really been laying it on my heart to share the very thing He is working on within me. Humility, protecting my thoughts, knowing my value…These are all things He is changing within me so that I may be more like Him.
So how can we become women of God, founded in strength, grace, and dignity? The answer is always Jesus. Seek Him, know Him, trust Him. He is worthy of our ultimate praise, and He deserves our complete and total submission. I love you all and pray that my words, though may not have been the most pleasant, will be gently given through this blog and that this is used for the good and for the glory of the Lord. Please feel free to leave any comments regarding today’s blog, and let me know if you would like a series that goes even deeper into this topic. Also, stay tuned, I will be posting a blog that is regards to the attributes of a godly man. Have an amazing day, sisters, and know that I am praying for each of us to become molded into the image of the Lord. God bless!